In addition to that, when we do see each other, he is so exhausted that he usually passes out. When missionaries come home, they are like top dog religious people. She found the perfect Mormon guy, they were married in the temple.
It is easier and more enjoyable for him to zone out in the world of sweat and toil much like his school and training and work than to get to know me.
No where did I say, nor I think indicate, that I thought this wasn't a complex issue, or that this girl is a caricature.